Lunchtime poll – dating outside your diet
July 22nd, 2010
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Now that we know a bit more about diet tribes - vegans, fruitarians and raw foodists to name a few, we're wondering:

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  1. Elaine

    I dated many non-vegetarians but I married a vegetarian. We went vegan together. Shared values (respect for life, compassion for animals among other things) are the core of our relationship.

    July 29, 2010 at 8:32 pm |
  2. xfirestormx

    vegetarians are half assed. how is not eating meat ok, but consuming dairy or wearing leather is? hypocracy. go vegan.

    July 29, 2010 at 2:56 pm |
  3. Jessica

    I am a vegetarian, and I've been dating a meat-eater for two years. We don't live together, but the difference has yet to pose a problem for us. My vegetarianism is important to me, but it's not THE MOST important thing to me...meaning that I'm willing to date a meat-eater as long as his beliefs and interests line up with my more important ones.

    When we cook together, we usually make some sort of pasta or tofu (he loves tofu and in fact was the one who taught me how to prepare it.) If he wants to add meat, he cooks it up on his own and adds it to his own plate. We're both huge foodies, and have a tradition of eating out at Indian restaurants–where both of us can get an amazing meal.

    July 29, 2010 at 2:21 am |
  4. Scully

    I met my boyfriend a few months after becoming a vegetarian. He was an omni and stayed that way for the first 2 1/2 years of our relationship. He loved my lifestyle so much that he eventually made the full switch on his own. We've been together for 5 1/2 years and if we ever decided to break up, I would only date a vegetarian.

    July 23, 2010 at 5:55 pm |
  5. Reykjavik

    I don't think I could date a vegan. I was a vegan for a few years and developed some pretty nasty health problems. I guess if they didn't lecture me and didn't try to remove meat from my home it could be allright. However I see many vegans in the comments are not cool with meat eating, even acting completely disgusted by it. So I guess it wouldnt work.

    July 23, 2010 at 10:32 am |
    • Scully

      I never believe people when they say that they went vegan and developed health problems because of it. People develop health problems because they don't eat the right foods, no matter what diet they follow. I've known quite a few "ex vegetarians" who said the same thing, only to find out they lived off Mac and Cheese, soda, chips, and other processed foods. Or they never ate vegetables, whole grains, ate out at every meal, lived off 1 type of food (like pasta), etc. I mean in some extreme cases where you have food allergies and are extremely limited, then maybe I could see that. A vast majority of people would thrive on the diet though. (Note: I'm not a vegan, but I have studied Nutrition for many years at a university level)

      July 23, 2010 at 5:58 pm |
    • Ann

      you just have to find the right person...I'm vegan but guess what? I'm the only vegan I know..hahaha my entire family eats meat and my friends(even girls) absolutey looove anything non-vegan :)...but they love me so for me they sometimes go to vegan restaurants with me and live off veggies...but i love them too so i wouldn't mind seeing them eat meat as long as i'm not made to eat it

      August 23, 2010 at 12:04 am |
  6. Josh

    I'm a vegan guy. I have dated a so-called vegetarian but she ate seafood (which means she was NOT vegetarian). Not wanting to kiss her after eating meat cause pretty big arguments (she was offended that I asked her to brush her teeth). That didn't last long and I haven't even tried to date anyone since then. That was 5 years ago.

    July 23, 2010 at 6:49 am |
    • Ann

      lol it's been five years? don't be afraid :)...i'm vegan but i've only dated omnivores too so..and it's not that big a problem for me...i commit to my diet but it's their life as much as mine so they can eat whatever they want if it really makes them is the source of life :)

      August 23, 2010 at 12:02 am |
  7. Julie

    Something in the meat these days that makes all the Men have to take Viagra.

    July 23, 2010 at 4:02 am |
    • yummyyellowstuff

      Cellulite, and its attached to your meat.

      July 23, 2010 at 7:22 am |
      • Reykjavik

        Yes. When I was a vegan I wasted down to 110lbs at 5'6. Skeletor is sooooooo much more attractive.

        July 23, 2010 at 10:34 am |
      • blah

        yummy, you're an idiot.

        July 29, 2010 at 1:12 am |
    • Scully

      "When I was a vegan I wasted down to 110lbs at 5'6." Calories in, calories out. It doesn't matter what diet you're following. If you're losing weight when you don't want to be, you're doing something wrong. My guy is in great shape (military) and he's a strict vegetarian. So much hotter than the giant stomachs I've seen on many guys. :)

      July 23, 2010 at 6:01 pm |
  8. nikanika

    I have pretty severe food allergies/intolerances. So my cupboards do not have corn/corn derived products, citrus, dairy, gluten-laden foods or mustard. I dated a vegan and since he didn't have soy allergies, could use my kitchen pretty well unless he needed one of the above products that was not prohibited by his diet. Then he had to bring it over or run to the store a block away to get it.

    I have no problem properly storing foods for a person, should they want to use them. No reason they can't have what they want, just because I am prohibited from it. Trust me, I can resist a bag of Fritos. I know how to keep a seperate knife and cutting board for gluten foods. There is a solution to almost every dietary dilemma, if you are flexible enough.

    July 22, 2010 at 8:47 pm |
  9. devon

    sure no prob, but NO SMOKERS PLZ

    July 22, 2010 at 4:30 pm |
  10. Leah (TXanimal)

    My situation is a bit different. I'm a competitive bodybuilder, so when I'm prepping for a show, I have a very limited list of things I can eat (and absolutely no eating at restaurants). There is no room for compromise during prep time...I do not deviate from my diet. I generally don't date when I'm dieting just because I feel bad! "Sorry, I can go to a movie with you, but I can't go to dinner, and I can only be gone 3 hours because I need to eat/train/sleep." I know that's not fun for someone who enjoys year-round spontanaiety! I don't really care what a girl I'm dating eats...I'm not going to get bent out of shape if she goes out or eats cheeseburgers in front of me while I'm dieting. She can keep Pop-Tarts in the cupboard & it won't bother me. That being said, if a girl is going to dump me because I refuse to eat pizza 2 weeks before the national championship...well, she probably doesn't "get" me anyway!

    July 22, 2010 at 3:27 pm |
  11. Carrie

    I’m a vegetarian and my boyfriend is an omnivore. He was very cute about it when we first started dating, always ordering veggie dishes when we ate out so as not to offend my sensibilities, even though I assured him I didn't care what he ate.
    Now he orders whatever he’s hungry for, but frequently still opts for veggie fare so we can share and swap dishes.
    He enjoys my cooking very much, even calling my BBQ mock duck sandwiches “impressive”.
    He once joked about me keeping bacon in my fridge for him, and I told him he can certainly bring anything over that he wants, but he’ll have to *cook* the meat himself.
    As long as both people have an open-mind there’s no reason you can’t make different diets work.

    July 22, 2010 at 3:27 pm |
  12. Darrell

    If giving up all animal products is the price that I have to pay to be with her then I am getting a bargain. (You would undertand if you met her.)

    July 22, 2010 at 3:13 pm |
  13. Tina

    My ex is a vegetarian, and I love love love meat (bacon is my soulmate). It worked for us, but I have to say it would be very hard to date a vegan. I have a few strict vegan friends, and going out to eat with them almost always involves compromise on my end–while almost all restaurants include vegetarian options very few cater to vegans.

    The ones that do rarely serve bacon :(

    July 22, 2010 at 3:10 pm |
  14. FussyFrau

    In the past, I dated people with a variety of food rules, including men who kept kosher, halal, vegetarians, and ones with allergies. Although for the duration of the relationships, we were always able to make it work, in the end, I met and married someone who, like me, doesn't have any food restrictions. I'm sure there are plenty of successful relationships between people who have differing diets, but, for me, the ease of not ever having to think about whether or not I (or my husband) can have what I want for dinner is an additional comfort in my marriage.

    July 22, 2010 at 3:04 pm |
  15. Mike

    It's not so bad dating outside of your diet. But what I've found is that people who are totally consumed (or should I say obsessed) with their diet are usually not much fun in other aspects of their lives. Aside from those who had medical restrictions, women I've dated who were were obsessed with their diets (like vegans) tended to be inflexible, and resisted spontaneity.

    Except for one... There was one woman was was completely obsessed with not eating animals but she shattered the mold. So you never know, never exclude someone because of their diet, you could be giving up something special.

    For those who care... The woman mentioned and I, we went our separate ways after college. 13 years ago, I went off to be a pilot in the military, she pursued her graduate's degree in DC. We've since lost contact but I wonder...

    July 22, 2010 at 2:47 pm |
  16. Dave

    If she gives good head I will eat tofu till I poop myself.

    July 22, 2010 at 2:41 pm |
    • Chris

      That was the funniest comment Ive seen all day

      July 22, 2010 at 3:05 pm |
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      July 22, 2010 at 8:41 pm |
  17. Meat Eating Gal who married a Veggie

    It is not that big of a deal, I eat meat and my husband doesn't. When we eat out I usually eat meat and he eats tofu. When we cook at home we usually both eat vegetarian foods but only because it is easier then cooking twice. We don't try to change each other. It really isn't any different then sharing your kitchen with a picky eater.

    July 22, 2010 at 2:22 pm |
  18. Chris

    Cooking for two is hard, cooking twice for one is harder. But love is love, so you do what you have to do.

    July 22, 2010 at 2:12 pm |
  19. CC

    Some people actually have dietary restrictions because of health reasons, not just because of trend-following, beliefs about eating meat and the meat industry, etc. I know, as I am married to someone with some serious limitations, but we still manage to eat together just fine, and my culinary horizons have definitely been expanded (for the better I must say). It's pretty shallow to make broad relationship and friendship exclusions based on diet preference!

    July 22, 2010 at 2:08 pm |
    • Overcat

      Why do you assume a voluntary restriction is a fad? I've been a vegetarian, by choice, for 25 years. I am not following a fad or going through a phase. It is something I feel deeply and personally.

      On the other hand, I do not preach to others and I have kept a sense of humor. As long as you can respect my choices I can respect yours. However, if you insist on arguing or insulting my feelings, I know more "do you know what's in that hot dog" stories than most vegetarians.

      The main reason I became a vegetarian is not because I love animals. I just really hate plants!

      July 23, 2010 at 1:31 am |
  20. a girl that likes bread

    It's not that i'm NOT open to dating a vegetarian or raw foodist, but honestly, I eat three times a day. Food makes me giddy happy and that includes meat. If I had to have a discussion three times a day about what I eat, or even once a day, it could deteriorate a relationship really quickly. Because...I love food. I adore the gluttonous feeling of tomato sauce dripping from a pizza slice onto my greasy waiting lips. I marvel at the artery clogging powers of the oozing melty cheese; all atop glorious bread. I want to share these moments with my friends, my family…just about everyone I care about and that would include the person I'm in a relationship with.

    July 22, 2010 at 2:07 pm |
    • Kayde

      The thing is, there are people who live to eat and people who eat to live. And you'll find both varieties of veg*ns just like you'll find both varieties of omnivores. My veg*nism has never gotten in the way of getting giddy over pizza or cupcakes so I'm not sure why you'd assume that a vegetarian wouldn't share your enthusiasm just because they wouldn't share your bacon.

      July 22, 2010 at 5:35 pm |
  21. cara

    i was a vegetarian and my now-fiance was a meat-eater when we started dating. 4 years later, i'm vegan and he's a vegetarian. i never asked him to change his diet, but it came naturally with the way we lived our life together. he'll probably never give up cheese but we have definitely bonded over both living vegetarian lifestyles. would we break up if one of us decided to eat meat again? no. but it somehow does still seem important to me that we share values in that area.

    July 22, 2010 at 2:07 pm |
  22. LP

    I'm a vegetarian. I much prefer to date other vegetarians. My view is that it's wrong to kill animals. I'd like to find a mate who shares this view.

    July 22, 2010 at 1:56 pm |
    • Bob

      and why is it wrong to kill animals for food or other useful things? Do you play football? Do you check the football first to see if it's made with only synthetic materials of which no component comes from an animal?

      July 22, 2010 at 2:16 pm |
      • Scully

        "and why is it wrong to kill animals for food or other useful things? Do you play football? Do you check the football first to see if it's made with only synthetic materials of which no component comes from an animal?"

        Does someone really have to explain why killing is wrong? I know very few people who play football, that's a funny question to ask. And what is up with omnivores always trying to "catch" vegetarians/vegans doing something they say they're ethically against? That's the lamest thing. I'm a vegetarian (not a vegan) and with the exception of dairy (and things you can't avoid like car tires), I don't buy anything with dead animal skin/fur/whatever. No leather, no animal skin sports equipment, no fur, no products animal tested, nothing like that. It's pretty easy to do.

        July 23, 2010 at 5:51 pm |
    • yummyyellowstuff

      Do you believe in Indians?

      July 23, 2010 at 7:17 am |
  23. Gargi

    I guess dating would be okay, but if we lived together, then I probably would not want meat inside of the home. I am pretty adamant about meat. Dairy might be okay.

    July 22, 2010 at 1:42 pm |
  24. skwanto12

    Oh nice rip off, CNN, that's a Claire Huxtablr line:
    "Lips that touch that will never touch mine."

    July 22, 2010 at 1:35 pm |
    • fxli

      Sorry, but they actually quoted George Young who said that about liquor in 1870.

      July 22, 2010 at 7:07 pm |
    • OhWakeUp

      The Huxtables??? Uh, no. See fxli's response, he's right. The expression is "lips that touch liquor shall never touch mine." I'm about 90% vegetarian and would love to be with someone's who's 100% to give me the last push of inspiration. Meantime, I just can't hang with people who have zero qualms about eating meat. If compassion for animals weren't enough, all of us going vegetarian would save the planet easier and faster than if all of us got a Prius tomorrow.

      July 22, 2010 at 10:19 pm |
  25. John

    Hindu girls are so hot.

    July 22, 2010 at 1:19 pm |
  26. Kayde

    I have been veg*n for most of my life, but I have only ever dated (married!) meat eaters. It's never been an issue. I cook veg*n and they've almost always shared in what I cook, sometimes adding their own meat as a side. All things being equal I'd prefer to date a veg*n because it would be another value we'd share, but all things aren't equal and we love who we love.

    July 22, 2010 at 1:13 pm |
    • Joe

      It's cause real men eat meat!

      July 22, 2010 at 2:11 pm |
      • Kayde

        Well, no, it's because meat eaters outnumber veg*ns by a large margin. I probably wouldn't date anyone who crowed about what "real men" do...

        July 22, 2010 at 5:37 pm |
      • Rachel

        And I guess real men have colon cancer, prostate cancer, heart disease...

        Whatever the case, I will never date a man that eats meat. My current boyfriend and I have both switched to a vegan lifestyle. Compassion is sexier than any physical attribute.

        July 23, 2010 at 12:50 pm |
    • yummyyellowstuff

      You only date married meat eaters?? That seems very unethical for a vegan!!! Oh well nobody is perfect I guess.

      July 23, 2010 at 7:14 am |
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